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The following are ways you can love yourself in the phase you are in right now:
- DON’T STAY DOWN
I know how it feels when you can’t really get a hold of your shape, size or looks anymore, i have been there often, as recent as last week but you know what makes the difference? it is the decision you take again and again to keep getting up after falling that matters.
If you hate yourself in the mirror and you keep finding several ways lose or add weight or look better but nothing changes physically, it’s easy to give up. However, something changes inside of you and you get even more stronger in loving yourself every time you make that decision to keep fighting for your body.
2. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF WITH YOUNGER/PREVIOUS VERSIONS OF YOU
if you are the type who sets goals to return back to how you used to be, its totally fine but if setting goals will hurt you anytime you look in the mirror or if you think you would be happier looking like your old self, then you are getting it all wrong.
I used to be the type that looks back on old times and old pictures with the desire to look the way i used to be but now i realize how i had never really loved myself back then and was most definitely hating my size and how i looked those times…truth is, if you don’t find happiness in your present size or shape now, there is no guarantee you will later and you will keep repeating the hate cycle, so appreciate your previous, present and future self now.
3. DRESS AND ACT LIKE YOU ARE PERFECT
You are actually perfect, so do not let what you see in the mirror or what people say you look like determine what you should wear and how you should carry yourself.
There is nothing wrong in getting in shape but if you are waiting to get in shape before you look good, then you will miss a lot of yourself in the process so If you love an outfit, wear it and if you want to try something new, try it because these are the major steps to breaking free from a mindset that currently says you are not beautiful, handsome, fleshy, slim or worthy enough for anything.
4. FIND YOUR CURRENT PERSONAL STYLE (PS)
i wrote a post some months ago on how to find your personal style, where i explained in detail how you can figure out the things that flatter you in every phase. if you haven’t read the post, scroll down the blog home page to find it because it is very essential to find your personal style in order to build your body confidence.
Personal style is about living your best life. It may be that signature scarf, sun shades, red lipstick, false lashes, makeup style and basically something unique to you that will boost your body confidence in your current phase. No matter your gender, size, shape, or face, it works.
5. DON’T LET THE FEAR OF ‘WHAT PEOPLE WILL SAY’ PUT YOU IN A BOX
just want to loud this before i go on, PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS FIND SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU. No matter how much you spend time working on yourself, finding solutions to look the best you can, there will be persons who would come across you and tell you your worse fear, either directly or indirectly.
For years i literally practiced avoiding people because i did’nt want to get hurt from people who would always say i’m either too big or looked too old for my age and in trying to avoid them, i put myself in a box and stopped myself from enjoying those things i really wanted to do just because i didn’t want to know what people will say. Now i’m learning everyday to live the life I restricted myself from having and i want you to do the same by loving your body now.
It takes a decision to love yourself but it truly takes practice to be better at it everyday. I’m taking it one step at a time and today I decided to get back to blogging and love myself in this TK MAXX dress, it’s winter here in Edinburgh but i’m totally rocking this outfit.
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